Wait, what happened to Summer? I could've sworn kids got out for the summer just a week ago! Incredible but true: It's time for our kids to return to school.
When you hear "back to school," what do you feel?
😃 Excitement
😅 Relief
😱 Panic
😢 A tinge of sadness
Wherever you are and however you feel, it's all good. Mixed emotions are natural, and it's okay to feel them all. Once we give ourselves permission to be okay with exactly where we are, we can focus on helping our kids transition back to school.
For most kids (neurotypical or not), transitions take work. Going from summer to back to school requires a mental, physical, and emotional shift. So, how do we get them—and ourselves—ready?
Step 1: Start with YOU
We are transitioning back to school, too. And although many of us might feel "relieved" that the time has come, we also need to prepare mentally, physically, and emotionally.
Step 2: Our Mindset Matters
To ensure a smooth transition, let's begin with mental preparation. Starting with our mindset will provide a solid foundation for addressing the physical and emotional aspects that follow.
One important aspect of this preparation is setting realistic expectations. Every year my son returned to school, I was excited for a new beginning and had "high hopes" for how things would go. Somehow, I created a fantasy that "this year," we wouldn't have battles with homework, run-ins with teachers, or altercations with other kids. It would all be just fine because he had grown and matured, and this year, he was READY.
But I was wrong. He wasn't ready because I wasn't being realistic.
Most of the time, I aimed too high and ended up disappointed and upset. To spare you the heartache, remember these two things:
Growth happens in small increments
Kids Do Well If They CAN
I had to take inventory of my child's strengths and challenges to set realistic goals and expectations. By identifying where they excelled and where they might struggle, I was able to provide targeted support and scaffolding to address their needs effectively.
Step 3: Initiate Meaningful Conversations
Begin by preparing them for the transition through conversation. Ask them what they are most looking forward to. Ask them what they miss about school (it'll probably be their friends, recess, or lunchtime ). Ask them what things will be familiar and what they think will change.
Then, talk to them about the things they already do well. Where did they "shine" the previous school year? Highlight their dedication and perseverance.
Lastly, ease their anxiety by letting them voice their fears. Help them normalize it, then help them brainstorm ONE thing they can do to feel better when they're feeling anxious.
Keep the Conversations Going
As we gear up for back-to-school, let's continue these small conversations. Check-in with your kids regularly, celebrate their small victories, and be there to support them through the challenges. Transitioning back to school is a process for both you and your children. Take it one step at a time, and remember to ask for help whenever needed.
Together, we can make this school year a positive and successful experience for our kids and ourselves.
Warmly,
Coco
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